Living final moments through text messages

I wanted to pull my hair out. Saying goodbye is never easy, but no one should have to say goodbye like this, ever. When your last name is my mom’s maiden name and you live in a small town where politics are alive and well, the mention of a certain name can get people to look the other way. When you have an Irish-Polish last name like ours, certain events just happen. Such is the case of the last thirteen hours of my mom’s life.

My Uncle managed to become mom’s power of attorney. How someone who had been diagnosed…

Be responsible for your choices.

Remember not too long ago when we could go on a vacation?

Even in current times, I went on vacation.

A “vacation.”

Let me clarify. My husband was in his busy season at work. We’ve been confined together for so long that even the dog needs some alone time. Everyone was sick of being stuck together and longed for a change, even if it was only a change in location. Hard as we tried, we couldn’t rent an Airbnb anywhere.

We all longed for some semblance of normalcy. My Dad extended an invitation to spend some time with him at…

Say “yes, and” as often as possible

No teenager has a meticulously clean bedroom, at least not one I’ve met. The bedroom is a place for kids to go for alone time. Hopefully, it’s a place of serenity and a place where kids have a bit of latitude to decorate and express themselves within reason.

The ongoing struggle between “It’s my room!” and “Your room is in our home!” can be a source of tension.

When it looks like Cookie Monster had snack time in the bedroom, it’s time for an intervention.

No food in the bedroom

We have a problem when cans of sweet tea and piles of snack wrappers are…

Get with the times

The Strunk and White “little” book is well known. Most writers probably own it or have referenced it at one time or another. A reference for the times, published 1918 by William Strunk Jr. for his Cornell students, and only 52 pages in length.

One of his students, E.B. White became a bit obsessed with following his professor’s guidebook. If you’re unfamiliar with E.B. White, then you’re likely also unfamiliar with his classic books Charlotte’s Web, Stuart Little, and The Trumpet of the Swan. He’s written books aimed at adult audiences too.

White put the elements he learned from his…

Be a survivor

If we’ve met you know that I care deeply about parenting, travel, self-improvement, and how these subjects impact our family relationships. You know what I do but may have forgotten why I do it.

My mom wasn’t the best role model, yet I survived.

Parenting was a decade-long journey and we lost four children along the way. This family of four should be a family of eight.

The question that goes through my mind daily: How can I be the best parent possible despite the example I had?

And I’m willing to talk about it all.

Most of us look…

Certain qualities pull people in

I remember reading books over and over again as a kid. As an adult, it’s more difficult to connect with stories on a repeat basis. Certain classics come to mind as material to revisit, and just about anything by Sarah Knight.

Are there stories worth reading again?

What qualities do they hold?

Ayodeji Awosika’s stories are worth rereading:

The 2 Percent Rule: How to Live an Exceptional Life

I accept all of the following premises:

  • Self-help is largely ineffective for the vast majority of people
  • Having big insane goals for your life is delusional
  • Circumstantially, it’s more difficult for some people to ‘pull themselves up by the bootstraps’ than others → READ MORE

5 Mental Health Strategies You Can Use to Become Emotionally Resilient

Your mental health…

Cherish good times and make memories.

Most people feel the woman who gave birth to them deserves honor and praise. Maybe you haven’t seen or visited mom in a while because you’re socially distancing.

Perhaps you feel the time is past due to cherish mom. You want to evoke the feel-good mojo of all that she’s done for you back on her. You get an opportunity to lavish praise upon her for the pain you gave her bringing you into the world or the pain you were to raise.

Sometimes you aren’t close to mom, either for circumstances beyond your control, or perhaps mom has passed

Action can build into habits, but they are not the same thing.

There’s a common myth going around that you can create fundamental new habits in 21 days, or 30 days, or insert your magic number.

If you believe the myth you aren’t alone. The short number is inspiring and full of hope. In just 30 days you can transform your life. Aspirations and hope come together in an equation that may yield results for the life you want to live.

It’s a fallacy. Let’s restate clearly that 30 days isn’t your claim to do much of anything. Do you really believe that you can undergo a complete transformation in 30 days…

Some moms never show up well

When it comes to celebrating mom we all have mixed reviews. Some of you cherish and adore the woman who raised you. For better or worse, you are who you are, in at least some small part to who she is. When mom falls under the worse category, you may be everything you are in spite of her.

Perhaps mom was loving and nurturing your whole life. You can’t wait to honor her in a unique way for all she’s done for you. I’m so glad you had that beautiful kind of person in your life. …

Nicole Akers

Happy Mom of 2 bringing you amazing tips on parenting, travel, & lifestyle with a touch of humor & sarcasm | 🐶 Mom | Founder of Publishous. Keep that smile.

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